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Sunday, September 14, 2008

How Not To Write an E-Mail to a Man on a Dating Site

Let me start off by saying that as a woman, you should not write an e-mail to a man first. I personally do not recommend initiating contact with a man on a dating site. I am old fashioned and much prefer that a man contact me first. But to each their own, as they say, and if you are so compelled to write an e-mail to a guy on a dating site, you should make it really short.

Here is an e-mail my guy friend received recently on a dating site from a woman living nearby. I will include the e-mail here, and of course, I will slightly paraphrase it and I will not include any names. Below I will comment on this e-mail and why you should not write an initial e-mail on a dating site that is like the one below. So, here it is.

I have had your profiled saved for a few weeks and haven't written. Why? I am not sure. I really enjoyed reading your profile especially the part where you want a woman that has ample room in her heart to be filled with love, passion and devotion. I am looking for a guy where the little boy is alive and well and actively engaged in life. I am not just talking about living life, but doing it! Someone who is emotionally and physically available to reach true intimacy with one person. I believe that true intimacy is the connection of mind, body, soul and spirit; something that many people have never experienced nor have the idea that it even exists! The man I am looking for is self aware and uninhibited, spontaneous, passionate, romantic, and mostly soulful. He must be able to laugh at himself and recognize his faults as no one is perfect, but willing to grow together with friendship and honesty as the foundation of a wonderful relationship!

Don't let the corporate picture fool you; only one I had. I have a feminine side that is a huge part of who I am. I have been told that I am much prettier than my pictures; no games here. I have had misrepresentation done to me and it isn't nice! My hair is longer, curlier and I have a deeper tan. I am a Libra also and passion is the way that I live my life in whatever I am doing!

So if anything that I have said intrigues you, please write and then we can meet. I am not technical and prefer the old fashion way with the personal touch!

Hope you are having a great evening and that I hear from you soon

I personally think that this is a great e-mail except for one thing. Until you haven’t met, it is unreasonable to have such high expectations. You wouldn’t want to put your heart out for someone you’ve never met. Granted, deep down we all want what she had described. However, putting the cart before the horse and raising unrealistic expectations upon someone you’ve never met before is premature.

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Writing a Great Dating Profile

Writing a great dating site profile can be an extremely time-consuming task to say the least. And if you are just starting your online dating quest after a divorce or a break-up, you probably aren’t familiar with the latest online dating profile trends. Online dating has significantly changed since its infancy back ten years ago when it was what we thought of a geeky way of meeting socially inept singles. Nowadays, online dating is no longer a subject we are ashamed of. Just like we do online banking and bill payment, we are now outsourcing the first step of dating, which is the introductory stage.

With that said, a dating profile is a critical stage in online dating process. Just like with online shopping, we are too quick to eliminate potential mismatches. Instead of “traditional”, old-fashioned way of introduction, with the initial anxiety of not knowing if the other person is attracted to you, is accepting and approachable, we can say with significantly greater assurance that persons on a dating site are the ones who are single, available and are actively looking. The question is how do you write a great dating profile to get those quality singles interested?

Days when members could not upload photos directly onto a dating site and had to send their pictures via snail mail to the online dating site offices (yes, I remember those days) have long passed as well as the days when every new member received an overwhelming number of responses to their dating profiles without even posting a photo. Now singles are more selective if who they respond to. They prefer quality over quantity. We are all busy people, and living in the fast lane we do not take the time to dig deeper if the first impression is not enough to awaken strong desire in a Starbucks meeting (a modern way of evaluating chemistry potential). That is why writing a dating profile that highlights your best qualities in a language that is fun and breezy is a key step in online dating introduction process.

I don’t discount the importance of photos on a dating site. In fact, I addressed this particular issue on my blog a while back. You can read my articles dedicated to online dating site photos on my blog, but this is not what this page is about.
Dating online since 1999, having been married twice in between, and having met literally hundreds of people on various dating site, I can say with assurance that I am an expert in online dating and writing a profile. The single men I have met over the year have all been intelligent, well-educated, articulate, successful and good-looking. I am very selective in whom I meet, and yet, I could have three dates in a day if I wanted to. Additionally, I have helped numerous male and female friends with their dating site profiles.
See, knowing men and women’s psychology, and what each gender is drawn to, I can not only write an eloquent intro for a dating site, but I also hit the nail on the head when I write to specific audience. You can read a real example of a dating profile for men which I wrote a while back for a friend of mine. He received literally hundreds of unsolicited responses from women who told him anything from “this is the best dating profile I have ever come across” to “You had me at hello”, to “I cried when I read your profile”.

At the same time, as a woman, writing a quality dating profile that gets you the kind of responses you want requires a particular skill set. My personal dating profile has been copied, re-written in many formats and brutally plagiarized by multiple single women and even men! Speaking of which, Dating site plagiarism has grown substantially in proportion with the increase of online dating popularity. However, simply copying somebody else’s profile does not make YOU sound unique. I have literally seen people copy my sample dating profiles from my blog and paste them into their new dating profiles.

But remember, YOU are unique. And you want to be one of a kind on a dating site. There is no one else in this whole world like you. And by copying another’s dating profile you discount yourself.

I’ll give you an example. I received an e-mail from a man who was not getting any responses. He asked me what was the best initial e-mail that I have ever received on a dating site. I forwarded him an e-mail that my ex-husband had sent to me when he first saw me on a dating site. What do you think this man did? He copied that e-mail and sent it to a woman he wanted to meet on a dating site. Her response was prompted by anger more so than anything else. She wrote that it was clearly a “form letter”. I was not surprised. The e-mail that my ex-husband sent to me addressed something that I wrote in MY dating profile. Clearly, it did not address a single thing in that other woman’s profile.

After that incident, I suggested re-writing that man’s dating profile and getting new and professional photos through LookBetterOnline.com. Upon a complete makeover, he immediately got dates with three women the same week!
Now, some online dating gurus charge hundreds of dollars per a personalized dating profile and even more for additional services, such as follow up e-mails and dinner dates (just kidding about dinner dates). For instance, Evan Marc Katz, who is a dating coach based out of Los Angeles offers such services at a hmmmm….. lofty price. Granted, he is a published writer. After all, outsourcing your dating profile to Kurt Vonnegut could cost you.

Now, here is the punch line you’ve all been waiting for. For $59.95 you will receive a complete profile makeover written specifically for a dating site of your choice. I strongly recommend that you read my dating profile that I had posted during my recent cruise on a dating site a few months back. And when you get to my blog, I want you to browse around a bit to get acquainted with my writing style. Remember though, in order to provide the most fulfilling experience to my readers, I from time to time post relevant dating news or references to other dating advice sites that I find valuable to my readers, so those posts will have a link to the source. Majority of the posts are my original writing, and those are the ones I want you to scan to properly evaluate the potential of our collaboration.

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